Well, I can speak from personal experience that this is a very touchy subject and have lost a friend over it….I said no to the boyfriend who turned my friend, of 25 years, against me but I am glad I stood up to him. I’m sad I lost my friend but maybe it was meant to be. It was part MY trip and I didn’t want to feel like a third wheel! It’s a sucky situation no matter how you look at it or how you handle it!!!